It is a day of blessing for some but dreaded by many others.
This is a post I wish I had been able to read years ago when many often snubbed me once people found out that my daughter did not come from my own womb. I have experienced labor pains unknown to many. I have wept in the secret. I have loved fiercely and continue to even when it is hard.
I am writing to all those today that are often overlooked. The name or title of “Mom” has many other titles.
If you are a foster Mom, adoptive Mom, a Stepmom, an Aunt, Nanny, and/or are barren: God sees you. He knows that this weekend is hard for you. Do not feel less than just because you have not given birth. I know plenty of women who have given birth that have done nothing close to being awarded Mom status. In many ways, it is about your heart for that is where God births Mom’s to begin with.
For those who Mother a child who is not of your bloodline: because of what Jesus did on the cross, his blood erased man-made bloodlines to form a family all together different. This child is yours. And you are their Mother. Never doubt what God has formed in your heart even though it never formed in your womb.
God births Mom’s. He does not care whether your womb has been full or empty for he forms families differently than we often acknowledge.
You are needed. I know the pain you must feel when someone asks you when you are going to have your own or when they make remarks that unknowingly discount your vital role of being Mom. Your kids need you. Your nieces and nephews need you, as well as the kids you nanny. The kids in the nursery, toddler classes, and kindergarten through 5th grade on Sundays need you. There will be more kids that will need you. The world needs your example for your love is a glimpse of agape (unconditional, God love).
You are valued. Whether or not you are acknowledged or thanked often, you are changing the life of a beautiful soul that thinks the world of you. God sees everything you do and how you love even when it is hard. Your Momma heart has a greater influence than you will ever know.
If Mother’s day is hard for you, go ahead and grab those tissues and cry. But never stop being you. Keep loving fiercely, giving sacrificially, and extending mercy and grace to those who do not deserve it. Never doubt who you are. You are mighty. You are Mom. God made it so and nothing can change that.
(Missing my Mom who taught me how to be one. I need a new tissue box!)